Opening the Heart

Being disconnected from the heart’s energy, is one of the hardest things I have ever had to overcome. Feeling numb, disconnected, stressed, anxious, unsure of how you feel about this and feeling nothing at all. It’s as though one just walks through life, unaffected and zombie-like. Not really feeling or taking anything in, ones passion’s create no more zest. It’s looking alive, but being dead inside.

I struggled with this for numerous years after betrayal and trauma left my heart closed. I didn’t want to feel, I didn’t want to go there. It was easier to live life at that time being shut off. But then, at some point, I needed to feel again because not feeling got worst than feeling the pain. I became so uncomfortable with the suffering I was repressing. I thought I was safe this way. When really, I was still getting hurt by things, but I was numb, what a paradox. What I was really blocking out was joy, love, happiness, peace! I was numb to all that good! Isn’t that crazy. My heart was blocked, but what it blocked off was all of life’s good stuff.

I did everything I possibly could, you name it; affirmations, ayahuasca, vision quests, meditation, yoga, shamanism, counselling, coaching, herbs, crystals, Ayurvedic practices, exercises, flower essences, breath work, honopono etc.

Everything worked, if even just a little. I won’t tell you there is ONE magic cure that will blast your heart open and you will feel happy and wonderful again. No, it takes intention and dedication. It takes courage to face the pain, the emotions that made you shut down, and the trauma that hurt you. It takes authentic self reflection, self forgiveness, and self acceptance to say you did your best and that is okay, you may not be perfect but that is okay, what happened to you may not be ok, but you are ok. And maybe you aren’t even okay right now, but you will be okay at some point in the future. Your life may not be perfect, but after all of that, you are still ENOUGH! No matter what you are enough. And you are still okay. You made it, you are a surviver and you are a badass spiritual warrior.

There is no magic cure to anything (I believe). It is an accumulation of many things.

How to start the healing process?

Your intention is important. Starting with intention is a great start. It is stating what you want to happen, with your power behind it. It is creating a force field into the universe. When you make a strong commitment you bend energy to your will.

Then listening to the universe, paying attention to signs. People you keep hearing about, or feel drawn to, places, things you feel a pull, a draw too. Explore it! You never know where it may lead.

Opening the heart after trauma, a break up, betrayal etc can be tricky because the body remembers the pain and wants to protect itself. It may open for a short time and then shut back down again. This happened to me, what feels like a hundred times. What I can say for this is that it takes patience. It will happen, maybe not right away but trust that. Maybe you are learning something, maybe there is more to uncover and maybe you just aren’t ready yet. And, that is okay. Everything takes its own time. The apple falls when it is ripe. Your heart will open in due time. You will trust in yourself again in due time. Be patient, I know it’s not easy but there are greater things at work than what we are aware of. The first step to healing is saying you are ready.

I know there is lots of tips and how to’s on the internet to open your heart and just so you are not disappointed here is some 😛

My book ‘Rise in Love’ is available on amazon, it has exercises and goes more into depth with love, self love and relationships and healing work. If you are interested you can take a look, it is also sold in Vancouver at Yoga West (kits). I also offer coaching/ healing/energy work services if you are interested in working with me and feel ready but need support with your healing journey.

LOVE

Thalita

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What’s with all the F***ing Happy People?

So many spiritual people emphasize gratitude, I know myself as well have endorsed it. Like a great commercial with sunsets and flying birds and little children skipping and singing and a woman says ” I am so grateful for …. it makes me feel wonderful and I can enjoy everything life has to offer, blah blah blah.” Just like the many prescription drugs available, we can have whatever  reality we want based on a concoction of chemicals. We can buy whatever we want, thinking it will give us happiness, but its as fleeting as a chocolate bar. One minute its there,  next minute we ate it. Gone, forever. Anyways, I don’t want to get too emotional or carried away with my happiness affair with chocolate, we have some important things to cover. Here we go!

5017b02967349f20897b69f47b5de287 Gratitude is a beautiful emotion but for some its very eluding. When down in the dumps, depressed or just plain enraged with life, its pretty damn hard to feel gratitude. Why is that? Well, we cant see what we don’t feel. The darker emotions tend to carry a heavy frequency, which also means its harder to move out of it, and harder to see truth through it.  Its like swimming in water, your in it, until you get out and even then your still soaking wet. It takes a while for it to dry off. Once the darker emotions pass then we can feel lighter and brighter. However, because its lighter it means it can easily be missed, its very subtle and it needs awareness to be maintained. Thats why if something bad happens its easier to get in the dumps than to maintain the happiness. Why am I telling you this? Because, by knowing that different emotions carry different frequencies we can focus on creating awareness and paying attention to the more subtle energies in life. As we do this, we cultivate peace, happiness and joy. Which are all higher frequencies. Gratitude is also an expression of a very high frequency and it is when we feel connected to life around us. It is when we actually SEE life.

I went to watch the sunrise this morning and as I was staring out to the ocean and watching the sun come up, I had an insight. I have heard the saying many times before and its funny how we can hear it, and even say it but until we have that ‘Aha’ moment its really just shallow. As I was having my own mini commercial about how great life was, I realized that ‘ everything is a gift’. It all comes from the Divine Mother, and like a mother she cares for us deeply. She gives us everything relentlessly. She loves us!! SOOO Freaking much. She is the mother that cant wait for your phone call. She is the mother that sends you money when you totally messed up. She is the mother that will give you whatever you want because she wants to see you happy. She sacrifices herself for you.

You are her life, blood and bones. You are made of her and she cherishes you. You are here because of her. This life is truly a gift and as quickly as it was given, it can be taken away. All of it. Nothing is yours. Everything was given to you. For a short time on earth, your body is yours, your house may be yours, your clothes is yours. But it can be stolen, it can be lost, it can be taken. Nothing is yours and that is the illusion. 

Our unhappiness comes from attachments to nouns; people, places and things. We think because we have paid with something it is ours. But we are never satisfied. We are empty. When we buy something for ourselves, its good. But when someone gives us something as a gift. We cherish is, we keep it for years even if we don’t like it.. like an ugly sweater. But because it was a gift we give it more meaning, it becomes significant. It became a material symbol of the heart, its significance becomes deeper than face value. 3b2444b38c5efac72da00fc1c22f7b67

We get so attached to our things, to our people, to our friends, to our family. But we forget, they are not ours. In addition to them not being ours, they are a gift and when we stop seeing them as a gift, we lose gratitude, we loose appreciation. How many times are you present with the people you love? How many times do you act with them as though this is possibly the last time you will ever see them? Not much… usually we are so caught up in our own shit that we do not even realize we are not here. We are not giving each other our greatest gift, our presence. This is how we form regret. Because, people are a gift and they will not alway be around. One day, the Great Mother will take them back and we will be left with our memories. But will they be full ? Or Empty? e71a9bad1abcdb028997f63071046598

I urge you to feel life in a different way. To really see life as a gift, because we are only borrowing. We are only having a brief experience of human existence and it is fleeting.

Tell your family you love them, kiss that person you love with all of the feeling in your bones. Take a breath as though it was your last, savour it. Walk on the earth with eyes open that this is what I am made up of, all the food I eat comes from here and to here I will return. And reflect on the age old saying “money can’t buy happiness”. Because life is the ultimate gift and it was given to you, not bought.

Cherish every moment, it is so precious, it is a gift.

 

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How to Release Stress and Move to Peace

Dear Stress, Lets Break Up

Stress is not from any outside quarter. Stress is when an outside pressure is not matched and overcome by your inside intelligence.

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Stress is a sign we have lost our center and moved into fear and anxiety. We have contracted and cut ourselves off from source, thinking we have to do it all alone. To release stress we must connect back with ourselves and reconnect with our truth.  Learning to surrender, let go and working with the flow of life, rather than against it.

Choose 3 things to incorporate into your life, to create more peace, stillness and happiness.

Ways to Reduce stress:

  • Meditation, spiritual practice: Scientifically proven to reduce anxiety and stress and rewire the brain.
  • Breath work: Sitali Breath, Long Deep Breathing, breath of fire
  • Cat/ cow posture
  • Acupressure- point on the shoulders, neck and upper neck.
  • Lavender and Spearmint essential oils: Diffusing, or putting them in your massage oil
  • Listening to soft soothing music
  • Dancing
  • Eating whole, unprocessed foods
  • Reducing sugar and caffeine in your diet
  • Notice what triggers you and creates stress
  • Change your attitude to a different altitude – get positive: See the obstacles as a challenge rather than as a problem
  • Learn to say No: Don’t take on more than you can handle
  • Less is more
  • Go slow: Eat slow, walk slow, talk slow- reduce your pace
  • Mindfulness
  • Exercise- 30 minutes a day (yoga, swimming, light jog)
  • Get massages, especially  FOOT MASSAGES before bed
  • Eat dark chocolate
  • REST so you can rejuvenate
  • Laugh, watch something funny, be around friends that make you laugh
  • Make sure your Vitamin B is at normal levels- Take Vitamin B complex

Man under stress is his own enemy.

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Ways to Unwind for the evening

  • Make your bedroom into a safe, relaxing space where you can retreat and dream well.
  • Don’t go on computer or cellphone after 6pm, so that you have time to unwind and the lights don’t activate your brain to alert mode.
  • Warm bath or shower
  • Drink magnesium calm before sleeping to relax the body
  • Foot massage either for yourself, or exchange with your partnerJ
  • Yoga Nidra- Deep Relaxation technique
  • Diffuse lavender essential oils
  • Have a Himalayan salt lamp in your room for light- also producing a calming, meditative effect

 

Invoking the Divine Feminine

Sat nam Beauties,

I had a request from many people after my women’s workshop to post the invocation I did as we called down Mother Earth and the energies of the Divine Feminine. This invocation can be used a prayer, a meditation, and/or  you can do a daily  spiritual practice to bring the Divine Feminine into your being. I hope you enjoy and may these words inspire you and remind you of the power that is within You!!

To do the Invocation Raise your arms up to 60 Degrees. Focus on your heart and say these words and feel the presence of the highest power coming into your being.

Invocation of the Divine Feminine 

We call down Maha Shakti,

The Great Goddess,

The Life Giver and the Ultimate Mother.

We call her to Awake in US.

We call her to ignite us with our purpose as Creators to make a better world.

We call on Great Mother that rages in the rivers, the one that sustains and maintains all life force.

The one that causes our hearts to beat, that moves our blood through the veins of your oceans and rivers.

Like the rain the pours, your tears cleanse us until we are reborn.

We call on you Great Mother, to take out bodies and merge into form.

For it is with your power we are Reborn.

Shakti, We call on you to awake. Great Mother we call on you to Awake.

The world needs you now.

We need your guidance to show us the right direction.

We need your power to provide protection.

We need your soft touch to heal our wounds.

We need your creativity to show us the solutions.

We need your power to change, and we need your courage to hold the energy you sustain.

 Oh Great Mother we call on you now.

To awake within us our truth, creativity and our life breathing Destiny!

So we can serve relentlessly. So we can make this world one of peace, love and harmony.

For WE are Shakti!

I am calling on myself to Wake up!

I am in need of my self right now. The world needs me now!

I am a woman and I am the vessel of creation.

I am the Creator.

I am a Woman!!

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Angel

Here is a poem I am feeling called to share.

I wrote it for a friend of mine, they have become an uncle and are welcoming a small baby girl into this huge world.

Welcome to Earth young Angel.

Angel

The world awaits,

With plenty of adventures

With smiles and lessons

Oh how wise you’ll be,

What amazing things you’ll do.

And beautiful things you’ll create.

The world awaits

For your shining light.

Your gift, that only you can give

There will be times of sorrow,

But they are only there to guide you on your way.

Keep your head up and your heart open.

The world awaits.

For you are Perfection

May the angels surround you and bless you with kisses

May you be protected and guided by your best wishes.

May you never forget,

Heaven is where you are from

The world awaits,

for an angel has come.

Thalita Angelika