Don’t Follow the Trends, Find Out Who You Are.

Fab diets, a certain type of yoga, a different meditation, it changes every week. What is popular is based on what is trending, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that what is popular will be good for you or even work for you. We are all very different and what may work for one person may not work for another person. It is about finding what works for you, this can change based on what period of your life you are in and what your lifestyle is.

It is for this reason I love Ayurveda. Because it helps to find out who you are (your unique body/mind composition) and from that place find things that work for you! How awesome is that! No more guessing.

Because we are all different and because we have different imbalances based on how we are living we all need different techniques, modalities, diets and lifestyle changes. We are all different. What works for one person, probably won’t work for a different person. This applies not only to food, but to yoga and meditation.

For example nuts may be great for a Vata, which will help ground them and give them the oil they desire because they are so dry. For a Pitta nuts will make them break out, or have too much oil. For a Kapha nuts will slow their digestion down and cause congestion. Food can be medicine for some, and poison for others.

A certain type of yoga practice for instance may be very beneficial for one person, but then when they get their friend to try it, they may find their friend doesn’t have the same reaction. Perhaps they may even feel agitated or irritated. This applies to meditation as well. Perhaps a meditation was really working for you at some point in your life. You were able to relax and let go and felt at peace, but then life changes and things become very chaotic and you have a very hard time focusing with the mediation you are doing. After some time you give up the practice because you are not able to keep up with it because you have too much going on and your mind is way to active, in that case switching to another form that helps to calm the rajasic mind would be more necessary.

Oftentimes we think, I am meditating, I am doing yoga, I am eating lots of vegetables etc, I should feel better. However, what you may be doing may not be right for YOU exactly. Just because it is mainstream or popular or because it worked for your neighbour doesn’t mean it will work for you.

I think knowing this is it important, otherwise we can get caught up in guilt or shame. Thinking we aren’t doing it right, or hard enough. That there must be something wrong with us because even though we think we are doing it all right, we aren’t getting positive results.

What is healthy for a person is based on a person and where they are in their life. We have to honour our differences, embrace them and then we can thrive in body, mind and spirit!

I am currently offering a body, mind and soul package which includes an Ayurvedic consultation (to let you know what your dosha is and your imbalance as well as advice to bring your mind, mind back into balance through food, vitamins and herbs). I offer one shamanic coaching session where we find your power animal, the animal that is most like you soul. This animal serves as a helper for you in your life. 3rd, I design a meditation practice that suits your lifestyle and what you currently need to have more mental peace in your life. Regulary 300$, I am offering it for an amazing price of 180$. Email me at thalita.angelika@gmail.com if you are interested. 

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Opening the Heart

Being disconnected from the heart’s energy, is one of the hardest things I have ever had to overcome. Feeling numb, disconnected, stressed, anxious, unsure of how you feel about this and feeling nothing at all. It’s as though one just walks through life, unaffected and zombie-like. Not really feeling or taking anything in, ones passion’s create no more zest. It’s looking alive, but being dead inside.

I struggled with this for numerous years after betrayal and trauma left my heart closed. I didn’t want to feel, I didn’t want to go there. It was easier to live life at that time being shut off. But then, at some point, I needed to feel again because not feeling got worst than feeling the pain. I became so uncomfortable with the suffering I was repressing. I thought I was safe this way. When really, I was still getting hurt by things, but I was numb, what a paradox. What I was really blocking out was joy, love, happiness, peace! I was numb to all that good! Isn’t that crazy. My heart was blocked, but what it blocked off was all of life’s good stuff.

I did everything I possibly could, you name it; affirmations, ayahuasca, vision quests, meditation, yoga, shamanism, counselling, coaching, herbs, crystals, Ayurvedic practices, exercises, flower essences, breath work, honopono etc.

Everything worked, if even just a little. I won’t tell you there is ONE magic cure that will blast your heart open and you will feel happy and wonderful again. No, it takes intention and dedication. It takes courage to face the pain, the emotions that made you shut down, and the trauma that hurt you. It takes authentic self reflection, self forgiveness, and self acceptance to say you did your best and that is okay, you may not be perfect but that is okay, what happened to you may not be ok, but you are ok. And maybe you aren’t even okay right now, but you will be okay at some point in the future. Your life may not be perfect, but after all of that, you are still ENOUGH! No matter what you are enough. And you are still okay. You made it, you are a surviver and you are a badass spiritual warrior.

There is no magic cure to anything (I believe). It is an accumulation of many things.

How to start the healing process?

Your intention is important. Starting with intention is a great start. It is stating what you want to happen, with your power behind it. It is creating a force field into the universe. When you make a strong commitment you bend energy to your will.

Then listening to the universe, paying attention to signs. People you keep hearing about, or feel drawn to, places, things you feel a pull, a draw too. Explore it! You never know where it may lead.

Opening the heart after trauma, a break up, betrayal etc can be tricky because the body remembers the pain and wants to protect itself. It may open for a short time and then shut back down again. This happened to me, what feels like a hundred times. What I can say for this is that it takes patience. It will happen, maybe not right away but trust that. Maybe you are learning something, maybe there is more to uncover and maybe you just aren’t ready yet. And, that is okay. Everything takes its own time. The apple falls when it is ripe. Your heart will open in due time. You will trust in yourself again in due time. Be patient, I know it’s not easy but there are greater things at work than what we are aware of. The first step to healing is saying you are ready.

I know there is lots of tips and how to’s on the internet to open your heart and just so you are not disappointed here is some 😛

My book ‘Rise in Love’ is available on amazon, it has exercises and goes more into depth with love, self love and relationships and healing work. If you are interested you can take a look, it is also sold in Vancouver at Yoga West (kits). I also offer coaching/ healing/energy work services if you are interested in working with me and feel ready but need support with your healing journey.

LOVE

Thalita

What’s with all the F***ing Happy People?

So many spiritual people emphasize gratitude, I know myself as well have endorsed it. Like a great commercial with sunsets and flying birds and little children skipping and singing and a woman says ” I am so grateful for …. it makes me feel wonderful and I can enjoy everything life has to offer, blah blah blah.” Just like the many prescription drugs available, we can have whatever  reality we want based on a concoction of chemicals. We can buy whatever we want, thinking it will give us happiness, but its as fleeting as a chocolate bar. One minute its there,  next minute we ate it. Gone, forever. Anyways, I don’t want to get too emotional or carried away with my happiness affair with chocolate, we have some important things to cover. Here we go!

5017b02967349f20897b69f47b5de287 Gratitude is a beautiful emotion but for some its very eluding. When down in the dumps, depressed or just plain enraged with life, its pretty damn hard to feel gratitude. Why is that? Well, we cant see what we don’t feel. The darker emotions tend to carry a heavy frequency, which also means its harder to move out of it, and harder to see truth through it.  Its like swimming in water, your in it, until you get out and even then your still soaking wet. It takes a while for it to dry off. Once the darker emotions pass then we can feel lighter and brighter. However, because its lighter it means it can easily be missed, its very subtle and it needs awareness to be maintained. Thats why if something bad happens its easier to get in the dumps than to maintain the happiness. Why am I telling you this? Because, by knowing that different emotions carry different frequencies we can focus on creating awareness and paying attention to the more subtle energies in life. As we do this, we cultivate peace, happiness and joy. Which are all higher frequencies. Gratitude is also an expression of a very high frequency and it is when we feel connected to life around us. It is when we actually SEE life.

I went to watch the sunrise this morning and as I was staring out to the ocean and watching the sun come up, I had an insight. I have heard the saying many times before and its funny how we can hear it, and even say it but until we have that ‘Aha’ moment its really just shallow. As I was having my own mini commercial about how great life was, I realized that ‘ everything is a gift’. It all comes from the Divine Mother, and like a mother she cares for us deeply. She gives us everything relentlessly. She loves us!! SOOO Freaking much. She is the mother that cant wait for your phone call. She is the mother that sends you money when you totally messed up. She is the mother that will give you whatever you want because she wants to see you happy. She sacrifices herself for you.

You are her life, blood and bones. You are made of her and she cherishes you. You are here because of her. This life is truly a gift and as quickly as it was given, it can be taken away. All of it. Nothing is yours. Everything was given to you. For a short time on earth, your body is yours, your house may be yours, your clothes is yours. But it can be stolen, it can be lost, it can be taken. Nothing is yours and that is the illusion. 

Our unhappiness comes from attachments to nouns; people, places and things. We think because we have paid with something it is ours. But we are never satisfied. We are empty. When we buy something for ourselves, its good. But when someone gives us something as a gift. We cherish is, we keep it for years even if we don’t like it.. like an ugly sweater. But because it was a gift we give it more meaning, it becomes significant. It became a material symbol of the heart, its significance becomes deeper than face value. 3b2444b38c5efac72da00fc1c22f7b67

We get so attached to our things, to our people, to our friends, to our family. But we forget, they are not ours. In addition to them not being ours, they are a gift and when we stop seeing them as a gift, we lose gratitude, we loose appreciation. How many times are you present with the people you love? How many times do you act with them as though this is possibly the last time you will ever see them? Not much… usually we are so caught up in our own shit that we do not even realize we are not here. We are not giving each other our greatest gift, our presence. This is how we form regret. Because, people are a gift and they will not alway be around. One day, the Great Mother will take them back and we will be left with our memories. But will they be full ? Or Empty? e71a9bad1abcdb028997f63071046598

I urge you to feel life in a different way. To really see life as a gift, because we are only borrowing. We are only having a brief experience of human existence and it is fleeting.

Tell your family you love them, kiss that person you love with all of the feeling in your bones. Take a breath as though it was your last, savour it. Walk on the earth with eyes open that this is what I am made up of, all the food I eat comes from here and to here I will return. And reflect on the age old saying “money can’t buy happiness”. Because life is the ultimate gift and it was given to you, not bought.

Cherish every moment, it is so precious, it is a gift.

 

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How to Release Stress and Move to Peace

Dear Stress, Lets Break Up

Stress is not from any outside quarter. Stress is when an outside pressure is not matched and overcome by your inside intelligence.

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Stress is a sign we have lost our center and moved into fear and anxiety. We have contracted and cut ourselves off from source, thinking we have to do it all alone. To release stress we must connect back with ourselves and reconnect with our truth.  Learning to surrender, let go and working with the flow of life, rather than against it.

Choose 3 things to incorporate into your life, to create more peace, stillness and happiness.

Ways to Reduce stress:

  • Meditation, spiritual practice: Scientifically proven to reduce anxiety and stress and rewire the brain.
  • Breath work: Sitali Breath, Long Deep Breathing, breath of fire
  • Cat/ cow posture
  • Acupressure- point on the shoulders, neck and upper neck.
  • Lavender and Spearmint essential oils: Diffusing, or putting them in your massage oil
  • Listening to soft soothing music
  • Dancing
  • Eating whole, unprocessed foods
  • Reducing sugar and caffeine in your diet
  • Notice what triggers you and creates stress
  • Change your attitude to a different altitude – get positive: See the obstacles as a challenge rather than as a problem
  • Learn to say No: Don’t take on more than you can handle
  • Less is more
  • Go slow: Eat slow, walk slow, talk slow- reduce your pace
  • Mindfulness
  • Exercise- 30 minutes a day (yoga, swimming, light jog)
  • Get massages, especially  FOOT MASSAGES before bed
  • Eat dark chocolate
  • REST so you can rejuvenate
  • Laugh, watch something funny, be around friends that make you laugh
  • Make sure your Vitamin B is at normal levels- Take Vitamin B complex

Man under stress is his own enemy.

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Ways to Unwind for the evening

  • Make your bedroom into a safe, relaxing space where you can retreat and dream well.
  • Don’t go on computer or cellphone after 6pm, so that you have time to unwind and the lights don’t activate your brain to alert mode.
  • Warm bath or shower
  • Drink magnesium calm before sleeping to relax the body
  • Foot massage either for yourself, or exchange with your partnerJ
  • Yoga Nidra- Deep Relaxation technique
  • Diffuse lavender essential oils
  • Have a Himalayan salt lamp in your room for light- also producing a calming, meditative effect

 

How To Release Fear ( False Evidence Appearing Real)

Overcoming Fear- Shifting into Fearlessness

“Love is what we are born with, Fear is what we learn here”

 Fear is the partner of the Ego. Fear is an exaggerated form of reality that tilts toward the negative, separate and isolated. There is no trust or connection. Fear is reliant on ego-centrism and keeps one in patterns which fuel the false self (ego).

The underlying emotion of all negative emotions is fear. It is the foundation of all emotions that leave us feeling separate from Source energy. To reconnect with love, one must stop focusing on self and focus on service.

The Voice of the Ego Versus the Soul

  • The ego is logical, mind-oriented energy, it lives in the past or the future. Soul is creative, based on the present moment and it lives in communion with the divine and lives with the pull of the soul rather than the push of the ego.
  • The ego is fear based. The ego always questions and doubts. It wonders will I survive, will I be accepted etc. Soul is based in love, it is trust, surrender and faith. The more one opens to faith the more miracles occur in life. Guidance from the soul is given one step at a time.
  • The ego sounds harsh. It is critical, judgmental and there are many “should” in its language. Intuition/love/soul is neutral. It receives messages on a steady and consistent basis without judgment.
  • The ego is self-serving. Whereas, the soul feels the need to serve others.

 

“The moment you have no fear, when you are fearless and revenge less, you are the living God.” – Yogi Bhajan

 

To Overcome Fear Writing Exercise:

  • Expose the fear, write it down, tell someone about it.
  • Face the discomfort, feel it and allow yourself to be vulnerable (the ego wants to hide- expose it) .
  • Witness what is happening, observe the sensations
  • Embrace the fear, and make a commitment to move past it
  • See all of the possibilities (what other options there are) and see the insanity of the fear.
  • Call in love- Forgive yourself and express gratitude and compassion.

Techniques to Manage Fear:

  • Pranayama: strengthen the Pranic body to keep the energy balance in the body so that one is not overcome with stress, anxiety and fear.
  • Focusing on service rather than on ones own gains. (help’s to release feelings of pressure and self importance)
  • Observe the sensations in the body and maintaining a neutral state of mind through meditation. Accept whatever arises. As well, noticing where fear is being held in the body and use the breath to release it.
  • Practice mindfulness and awareness to become aware of what fears are causing disruption in your life and what your triggers are.
  • When fear grips the body, practice long deep breathing to release the anxiety.
  • Do something everyday that scares you and brings you out of your comfort zone.

Here is a 3 minute meditation you can do whenever you want to help release fear: