We all have an Impactful Destiny

Something that is common amongst humans is that we feel we are here for something. Our life has purpose, we know deep down we aren’t here to just flip burgers and waltz our thumbs on our screen. Our life has meaning. We have a destiny. But many of us say ‘I don’t know what it is’. I think we do know what it is, we are just terrified to admit it. Because if we know it then we have to do something about it.

But there is a problem…

Admitting it, we face it. We face it everyday when we aren’t doing what we were born to do. It makes us feel shitty, it makes us feel guilty.

And the problem is…

Our mind.

Everything is possible. But our mind doesn’t let us believe that. It blocks us, sidetracks us, makes us play small. It is very good at deceiving us and making us think we are safe. ‘Don’t you dare do what you are thinking because of x,y,z’. The problem is that if you don’t do it you are preventing your own growth, your own destiny. ONLY YOU can do what you came on this Earth-plane to do, no one else can do it. You are unique and your destiny is unique. Yet, I see soooooooooo many people letting their mind get in the way, stopping them from really having what they truly desire.

Your destiny doesn’t have to relate to work, it can relate to having a family, living somewhere else, writing a book, being a great partner, enlightenment you name it. I don’t want to box you into thinking this destiny= purpose = money. No, that’s a 21 century way of thinking and we are human beings first and foremost before being a ‘money producing machine’.

I see so many dreams die because of a lack of commitment but also because people are scared of themselves. They are terrified of what they could do and so they never do it. What did the ‘little you’ dream of doing in life before you let others peoples beliefs invade your mind? At the end of your life, what will you be content with? Will you be happy with the way you lived? When there is nothing to care about at the end of the day because you are leaving this Earth will you be satisfied with what you did and how you did it? I find reflecting on death helps to put things in perspective. Because death will creep up on us, it is there. We cannot pretend it doesn’t exist.

So as the age old saying goes- the riches place is in the graveyard. I tempt you to make this a false statement. I tempt you to finally write that book, move to someplace you love, do that art project, make music, carve a statue, make a bubblegum castle, marry your best friend whatever, you name it.

The world is yours if you grab it by the balls with no mercy and don’t let go.

Not even when your mind tells you how far you have to fall. Commit to yourself.

If you want to heal and deal with your belief patterns that are holding you back. Contact me and I can help ❤

I wrote a book check it out.


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Opening the Heart

Being disconnected from the heart’s energy, is one of the hardest things I have ever had to overcome. Feeling numb, disconnected, stressed, anxious, unsure of how you feel about this and feeling nothing at all. It’s as though one just walks through life, unaffected and zombie-like. Not really feeling or taking anything in, ones passion’s create no more zest. It’s looking alive, but being dead inside.

I struggled with this for numerous years after betrayal and trauma left my heart closed. I didn’t want to feel, I didn’t want to go there. It was easier to live life at that time being shut off. But then, at some point, I needed to feel again because not feeling got worst than feeling the pain. I became so uncomfortable with the suffering I was repressing. I thought I was safe this way. When really, I was still getting hurt by things, but I was numb, what a paradox. What I was really blocking out was joy, love, happiness, peace! I was numb to all that good! Isn’t that crazy. My heart was blocked, but what it blocked off was all of life’s good stuff.

I did everything I possibly could, you name it; affirmations, ayahuasca, vision quests, meditation, yoga, shamanism, counselling, coaching, herbs, crystals, Ayurvedic practices, exercises, flower essences, breath work, honopono etc.

Everything worked, if even just a little. I won’t tell you there is ONE magic cure that will blast your heart open and you will feel happy and wonderful again. No, it takes intention and dedication. It takes courage to face the pain, the emotions that made you shut down, and the trauma that hurt you. It takes authentic self reflection, self forgiveness, and self acceptance to say you did your best and that is okay, you may not be perfect but that is okay, what happened to you may not be ok, but you are ok. And maybe you aren’t even okay right now, but you will be okay at some point in the future. Your life may not be perfect, but after all of that, you are still ENOUGH! No matter what you are enough. And you are still okay. You made it, you are a surviver and you are a badass spiritual warrior.

There is no magic cure to anything (I believe). It is an accumulation of many things.

How to start the healing process?

Your intention is important. Starting with intention is a great start. It is stating what you want to happen, with your power behind it. It is creating a force field into the universe. When you make a strong commitment you bend energy to your will.

Then listening to the universe, paying attention to signs. People you keep hearing about, or feel drawn to, places, things you feel a pull, a draw too. Explore it! You never know where it may lead.

Opening the heart after trauma, a break up, betrayal etc can be tricky because the body remembers the pain and wants to protect itself. It may open for a short time and then shut back down again. This happened to me, what feels like a hundred times. What I can say for this is that it takes patience. It will happen, maybe not right away but trust that. Maybe you are learning something, maybe there is more to uncover and maybe you just aren’t ready yet. And, that is okay. Everything takes its own time. The apple falls when it is ripe. Your heart will open in due time. You will trust in yourself again in due time. Be patient, I know it’s not easy but there are greater things at work than what we are aware of. The first step to healing is saying you are ready.

I know there is lots of tips and how to’s on the internet to open your heart and just so you are not disappointed here is some 😛

My book ‘Rise in Love’ is available on amazon, it has exercises and goes more into depth with love, self love and relationships and healing work. If you are interested you can take a look, it is also sold in Vancouver at Yoga West (kits). I also offer coaching/ healing/energy work services if you are interested in working with me and feel ready but need support with your healing journey.

LOVE

Thalita

The Importance of Reflection

There is a time for everything in life: Action and Inaction.

When we are in the midst of rapid change, frustration, major events it can seem that its crazy-madness; but there is order in the chaos. It takes a moment to step out of it, take some perspective and re-evaluate whats really happening. But that usually doesn’t happen when its happening (unless we are a super yogi…). And that’s okay.

We are humans and we were born to make mistakes. Its one of the main  ways to learn. The important thing is that once life has settled we take a moment to pause, breath and take in what happened. As much action there is, there needs to be the polarity of relaxation, of revaluation and contemplation. If we are constantly moving and never take  time to take in the sights then we miss the point of life. Life happens in the simple, in the little moments and its not about the end, its about how we got there.; Its about the experience learned, the conversations we had and the difficulties we over came along the way.

Radical self love, self forgiveness is a must and it takes patience and work to get there. To love ourselves as much as we love others, the divine etc. To forgive ourselves when we lost our footing, our head amongst the noise and say to ourselves ” It’s okay, I can do better next time”. We can be our worst enemy or our best friend. It is important to develop a strong and good relationship with ourselves because lets face it, you are with yourself 24/7. It takes practice but every time we take a moment after the fact to evaluate what happened and what we could do better the next time, it makes us better. It opens our minds and lets us see different perspectives. It creates space for change. 

No need to judge, criticize, or put ourselves or others down. See yourself and others a small child, although the body has grown we are just as sensitive and vulnerable as when we were younger. Acknowledge what happened and move forward with acceptance, gratitude for the lesson and with optimism. Life will throw everything it can at us, but its how we deal with it that creates character and a legacy.

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